If You Keep Falling Off The Wagon, Do You Need A Simple Starting Point Or Do You Just Need to Stay Consistent?
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Your new, healthy habits start strong, last for a few weeks, but then LIFE HAPPENS and you're back to the old habits you were trying to change in the first place. Some call it falling off the wagon... some call it inconsistency...
I call it not knowing YOUR Starting Point. In this episode, you're going to learn WHAT a Starting Point is, WHY it will keep you from falling off the wagon EVER again, and HOW consistency fits into the picture! You excited?! This stuff changes the game and my guess is you've NEVER been taught about this stuff before so no more waiting — let's get into it!
What is a Starting Point?
It is JUST like it sounds — it's where you START on this journey to weight loss and a forever healthy lifestyle!
A Starting Point is ONE simple habit you tackle and make part of who you are. We focus on ONE so it stays simple and because one change at a time is how, 6 months from now, you have a LOT of habits totally changed and your life looks way different.
You know how in January you pictured your discipline, your nutrition, your whole journey to be way further along than it actually is today? You’re not as far along as you want to be because you tried to take on too many things at once over the past 6 months.
ONE simple habit MASTERED one at a time is how you make that kind of change in 6 months… and weight loss is a secondary result.
So a Starting Point, you have to know yours!
Now you understand what a Starting Point is, but HOW does a Starting Point keep you from falling off the wagon?
You'll be taking on ONE simple habit, mastering it, then adding in ONE more. Falling off happens when you try to change too much at once. It gets overwhelming, you burnout, and you go right back to the old habits you were trying to get away from. Yes, you will make some progress, but it takes way longer and honestly it's not TRUE change.
Start with ONE Starting Point so you can actually CHANGE these habits, your mind, and your lifestyle.
Now how does consistency fits into the picture?
Consistency is simply doing the same things day after day.
Doing one simple habit — focusing on your ONE Starting Point — day after day is what makes it habit and what makes it part of who you are.
You can't change anything without consistency.
The key to it is that you STAY consistent, even with hiccups or falling off!
The difference is, if you fall off after trying to change a lot of things at once, it's overwhelming to think about getting back to ALL of those changes.
If you fall off of your Starting Point — which is normal — it is a lot easier to get right back on the wagon because you're only focused on ONE thing!
SPOILER though — you will fall off! We aren't perfect. Because perfect consistency isn't real!
So figure out… Do you need a Starting Point? Or do you have one and just need to stay consistent with it?
Because there's only one sustainable way to approach weight loss as a mom and it's making small incremental changes over time.
Get after it.
Are you ready to go from overwhelmed and stuck to disciplined and consistent in your journey?
Book your Starting Point Session and let's get you on track to your healthiest life!
FULL TRANSCRIPT
[00:00:00] Hey, mama. I've got a question for you. Is this, you let me know if this rings a bell at all. If you re. This, this picture, this experience on your journey. So you try to work out more often and eat cleaner and it lasts for a few weeks, but then something comes up, you know, a roadblock in life or something unexpected.
And you're back to your old habits without even noticing it. Some call it falling off the wagon, some call it inconsistency. I call it not knowing your starting point. In this episode, you're gonna learn what a starting point is more in depth. I know we talked about it Tuesday, but you're gonna learn more in depth.
What it actually is what some examples are, why it will keep you from falling off the wagon ever again. And how consistency fits into the picture. Are you excited? This stuff is the game changer. And my guess is you've never been taught this before, so no more waiting. Let's get into it.
[00:01:00] Hey, mama. Welcome to the tough love mom podcast. I know you're here because you're ready to get consistent and finally lose that weight. And you're not afraid of a little tough love, you know, what to do to lose weight. But following through on those things feels impossible. You wish you could just feel like you're strong, confident self again, and want to be good example for your little ones, but.
Thrown off by mom guilt and the unpredictability of motherhood. It's frustrating taking on your journey. Postpartum is hard, but it's not impossible. Hey, I'm Liz and I've been where you are. I gained a lot of weight in my pregnancies, 90 pounds, and then 60 pounds. I needed to lose that weight to take control of my health.
And honestly just wanted to feel like myself again. With the sustainable approach to weight loss, simple consistency in working on my mindset. I lost it all in just over a year, both times. And I'm here to help you do the same. I believe that we have an ingrained ability to figure out what we need to do, make it happen and do it in a way that [00:02:00] AWS the world.
If you're ready to stop falling off the wagon, create solid routine and healthy habits and finally feel your best inside and out all while enjoying D nuggets on your salad, you are in the right place. We're about to transform your journey. My friend get pumped up it. It's tough love time.
I promise you're gonna learn all about starting points today. And how about help? You never fall off the wagon again, there's tons of different starting points though. And in my starting point sessions, I help you uncover which one you need to start with based on your goals and your life and your struggles.
Because as you learn today, if you start with too many of the wrong starting points or the wrong habits, it's going to leave default lead to falling. So head to the tough love mom.com/coaching. At any point, during this episode, you can literally scroll down, it's linked in the show notes, or you can just type it in on your browser.
So you can go book your session because I want you not just losing weight, but I want you doing [00:03:00] it the sustainable way. Okay. So what is a starting point? A starting point is just like, it sounds, I know simple as I all get out. It's where you start on this journey to weight loss, to a forever healthy lifestyle.
It's literally one simple habit that you tackle and make just part of who you are. Notice. It's a starting point, not starting points, not starting path. It's not let's eat cleaner. Let's work out more. That's way too broad. It is literally one. simple habit. So simple your mind in your mind, you're gonna be like, uh, this isn't going to do anything for my journey.
This feels really insignificant, but I don't know if you've ever heard the. Metaphor of the guy digging for gold and he's chipping away and chipping away and chipping away and chipping away. And he gives up right before he chips away. One more time. And it's that last one that would've gotten him to that gold in that mine.
I don't know if you've heard of that before. I hope you could just picture that in your head, but that's kind of what this habit is. You're gonna keep [00:04:00] chipping away. Until you're right there. And when you finally hit that gold, it it's almost like the floods floodgates open and you get to this point where all the other habits start to fall into place.
This path becomes one, you can start running down. It's like you're walking really slowly. And then your steps are able to get faster and faster and faster. And it it's literally like a snowball going down a hill. I just gave you like four different metaphors. So I hope one of 'em stuck, but taking on one change at a time is how, you know, six front, six months from now you have eight or nine habits totally changed.
And your life looks way different. You know how in January you probably pictured your discipline and your nutrition and just your whole journey in general, to be way further along than it actually is today. Like, if that's you that's okay. But if it's not at that place where you thought it would be at this time, that's because you probably tried to take on too many things at.
And you're just kind of back to your old habits. What happens is when you, when you master one simple [00:05:00] habit at a time, you make that kind of big changes in 6, 7, 8 months, and weight loss is a secondary result. So a starting point, you have to know yours, grab a starting point session. If you don't know your starting point, um, it might be in workouts.
It might be in nutrition. It might be in routine. And from there, we'll figure out you, you get to figure out with me which specific habit within. You need to start with because it's so different based on everyone's circumstances, what you struggle with, like mentally, when it comes to your journey, what roadblocks you've always faced.
So that's what a starting point is and how I can help you with it. Now you understand what a starting point is, but why does a starting point keep you from falling off the wagon? Let's talk about that because I think falling off the, wagon's a really common thing in any type of health journey. , but this is gonna help you avoid that more often.
You already heard me say it but taking on one simple habit, mastering it, and then adding in one more is the key to making [00:06:00] lasting sustainable change. Falling off happens when you're trying to change too much at once. It becomes overwhelming you burn out. And when that happens, you go right back to the old habits that you were trying to get away from.
Right? That's like what actually is happening when we're falling off the wagon too much at once we give up or burn out or. Overwhelmed and go back to what we're comfortable with back to what is safe back to what we're used to, which is probably the habits you were trying to change in the first place.
Yeah. You'll definitely make some progress. Like you'll, you will make slight progress over time, even if you keep falling off the wagon, but it's gonna take way longer. And honestly, it's not true change. It's like slapping on a bandaid, ripping it off, slapping on a bandaid, ripping it off. Let's stitch that baby up.
Okay. So find your one starting point. You can actually change these habits and your mind and your lifestyle. Now, how does consistency fit into the picture? Of all of this, cuz we know consistency is like the bedrock from which we work from. Because if we're not consistent, it's not even a lifestyle. [00:07:00] Okay.
Consistency is simply doing the same things day after day. Like that's, that's the legit definition of consistency. So doing one simple habit, focusing on your one starting point day after day is what makes it a habit. which makes it part of who you are and you can't change anything without consistency.
We know that. I mean, even let's say consistency in things we don't wanna be doing, like, uh, opening up social media, the moment you wake up, if you do that daily, you're consistent with opening up social media, first thing in the morning, which I'm assuming is something you probably don't wanna be doing.
Cause you know, it's not great for you. Okay. But you're consistent with it cuz it's a simple habit you do day after day. The key. With what you're trying to do to help your journey is that you stay consistent even when hiccups happen or you fall off. So we're thinking about workouts or nutrition or having a consistent routine.
What you wanna do even after you have a moment of weakness where you fall off a little bit, or you don't show up is ideally is, you know, you're [00:08:00] capable of. you get back up. So the difference is with falling off, we all do it like, and this is, this is the thing I want you to hear in this episode is that falling off the wagon happens to everyone, me included.
Like I'm not perfect. My consistency is not perfect, but it's consistent in the fact that I fall down and I get right back up versus you fall down. How long does it take you to get back up? How long does it take you to re. if you fall off after trying to change workouts, nutrition, and routine in a very broad sense, you just 180 everything.
It's gonna be overwhelming to think about, to get getting back up, getting back on the wagon with all of those changes, right? Like it's hard to start that initially, but if you fall off and seemingly fail, like, you know, when you fall off the wagon, it feels like fail, failing. Right? It's it's hard. It it's really hard to feel that.
So when you fall up the wagon, you have that sense of failure. And if you're trying to take on 10 different changes, you know, you change your breakfast, you're [00:09:00] lunching or your dinner, you're meal prepping. And you've never meal prepped before you're working out six days a week for an hour at a gym, and you're trying to find childcare for your kids.
Like, and you weren't doing any of that two weeks ago, man. I'm overwhelmed thinking about that. So it's okay if you fall off the wagon and you don't get back up for weeks, cuz you are trying to change way too many things at. . So if you fall off, you know, it might take you a couple days to get back on that wagon and then eventually you'll fall off again because we all do.
It's gonna take longer the next time, cuz you're taking on way too much at once. Now the difference is if you fall off with your starting point, which again is one simple habit. and again, I'm gonna remind you one more time. Falling off is normal. It's insanely easier to get right back up on that wagon because you're only focused on one thing.
So if your starting point is say, we're on the new we're on the routine path, let's say your starting point is getting to bed earlier. So your body can start waking up earlier. So let's say you. Your habit is to, [00:10:00] you know, slow down, take a breath, actually decide. Do I need, do I need an extra episode of this?
Or should I go to bed right now? Just taking a minute to let your brain think, instead of just going through the motions, if that's the one thing you're focused on and you're not also trying to, you know, meal prep for lunch every single day and work out at 5:00 AM the next morning for an hour every day, and you get frustrated, like it's gonna be so much easier to.
Go to bed at a decent time. The next night, if the night before you gave in to the TV, like whatever it is, if you're only focused on one thing, it's gonna be so much easier to get back up on the wagon than if you're facing this. Like, I'm just picturing me being on my back on the ground, looking at this mountain of 15 different habit changes.
I'm trying to make. And trying to climb back up when I just rolled all the way down the hill. Versus if you're trying to walk up an ant hill, you literally step over it because it's so small. That's why you do your starting point. And that's why you focus on one starting point at the start, which feels so like, and this is the hard part is those first few weeks you're like, this is doing [00:11:00] nothing for me, Liz, but really it is you're building a foundation.
so you have the endurance to run up that mountain and not roll backwards because you have made so many steps, one at a time on the way up. Okay. In spoiler, you're gonna fall off. You're gonna slip down that mountain. You're gonna roll back a little bit. We are not perfect. Perfect. Consistency is not real, but consistent consistency getting right back up when we fall off is, and it's doable and it's for you.
So figure out, do you need a starting point? or do you have one and you just need to stay consistent with it and encourage yourself when you do fall off, say, Hey, I'm only taking on one thing so I can get right back up. It's all good. Okay. Because there's only one sustainable way to approach weight loss as a mom.
And I will stand on that rock. I will stand on that message until the day I die. There's one sustainable way to approach weight loss as a mom. And it is making. Incremental changes over time. And it's my job to help you with that. If you're not sure where to start, grab a starting point session, [00:12:00] if you're struggling to stay consistent or want guidance on what to take on next, if you already have some simple habits in place, but you need to step your game up, grab a package of three starting point sessions, cuz they're literally for the price of two.
Okay. There's limited spots each month. So if you head to the tough love mom.com/coaching to book your session, you wanna do it now because I fill up fast. It. Possible to stop falling off the wagon and to take things slow. Yes. I know you wanna feel good and confident and lose all that weight ASAP like right now, but if you wanted to stay off.
If you want to actually live a healthy life and make it all just part of who you are daily, getting up early, going to bed on time, eating clean throughout the day, and actually feeling good about what you're putting in your body and not giving into cravings left and right, and working out consistently.
Cuz you just enjoy it and you wanna be strong if you want that to be who you are. Well then a starting point is your answer and we're going to find it together again. That's the tough of mom.com thet of mom [00:13:00] dot. Make sure you put the in front.com/coaching, and I will see you at your starting point session until then go get after it before you go.
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