A No-Goal-Setting-Required End of Year Check In For Your Postpartum Journey
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While there are benefits to having set, tangible goals in your journey, there are times they're more harmful than beneficial and the end of the year is one of those times. In this episode, you're going to learn how to do an end of the year reflection and look toward NEXT YEAR without having to set any goals!
Have you ever gotten to the end of the year and thought, "What happened to all the progress I made through this summer? It's like I went back to where I was at the beginning of the year!"
The scale. Your habits. How you feel…
This problem is super normal because this last part of the year can throw us off track if we go through the year only focused on the outcome
That is what’s wrong with goal setting and the way so many moms approach their journey.
We choose a number or an "end date" and spend the day-to-day focused on that end point and the outcome.
While you still can and will achieve results this way, it leaves a ton of room for frustration, the need for perfection, and guilt along the way towards that goal.
So instead of being solely outcome-focused, become process-focused. This might mean NOT SETTING GOALS but instead, choosing day to day things to focus on.
This is why I teach the Starting Point Process with singular habits built on one at a time (Starting Points and Stepping Stones)… because that's the simplest way to stay focused on the process.
It does not allow room for frustration, perfection, or guilt because being process-focused allows you to respond to the nuances of each day. You know you're showing up as best you can THAT DAY versus comparing a really hard day to your motivation-fueled and excited day 1 back in January.
Remember, process-focused, not outcome-focused.
Are you ready to go from overwhelmed and stuck to disciplined and consistent in your journey?
Join Starting Point School and let's get you on track to your healthiest life!
FULL TRANSCRIPT
[00:00:00] Well, there are benefits to having set tangible goals in your journey. There are times that they're more harmful than beneficial, and the end of the year is one of those times. So in this episode, you're gonna learn how to do an end of year check-in and plan for next year without having to set any goals.
Hey mama. Welcome to the Tough Love Mom podcast. I know you're here because you're ready to get consistent and finally lose that weight, and you're not afraid of a little tough love. You know what to do to lose weight, but following through on those things feels impossible. You wish you could just feel like you're strong, confident self again, and want to be a good example for your little ones, but you get.
By mom guilt and the unpredictability of motherhood. It's frustrating. Taking on your journey postpartum is hard, but it's not impossible. Hey, I'm Liz, and I've been where you are. I gained a lot of weight in my [00:01:00] pregnancies, 90 pounds and then 60 pounds. I needed to lose that weight to take control of my health, and honestly just wanted to feel like myself again with the sustainable approach to weight loss, simple consistency in working on my mindset.
I lost it all in just over a year, both. And I'm here to help you do the same. I believe that we have an ingrained ability to figure out what we need to do, make it happen, and do it in a way that AWS the world. If you're ready to stop falling off the wagon, create solid, routine, and healthy habits, and finally, feel your best inside and out.
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Okay. Have you ever gotten to the end of the year? Maybe you're here right now, and you're like, what happened to all the progress that I made through the summer? Like I felt like I was getting somewhere and now it's like I went back to where I was at at the beginning of the [00:02:00] year, like I lost it all the.
My habits, how I feel. It's all out the window. This problem, the struggle is super common. It's very, very common. I've experienced it in the past and I think a lot of moms face this, this tail end piece of the year, because this last part of the year can throw us off track if we go through the year. Only focused on the outcome, only focused on this end goal that we're working towards, and that's what's wrong with goal.
And the way so many moms and honestly just so many people in general approach their journey. That's what's wrong with it. We choose a number or an end date and spend the day-to-day of our journeys focused on that endpoint, focused on this outcome, which is far off. You're, you wanna get the scale to a certain number or stay perfect in your habits for this many weeks.
Well, you still can and will achieve [00:03:00] results this way. It leaves a ton of room for frustration, for the need for perfection, and leaves a lot of room for guilt along the way towards that goal. So instead of having this outcome, focus, this keeping your eyes only on the destination, only on where you want to get focus.
On the process, become process focused. And this might mean for you not setting goals, but instead choosing day-to-day things to focus on. What I teach here is starting points and stepping stones because that's the simplest way to stay focused on the process, on the day-to-day, and on being, being flexible so you can continue to show up consistently A process focused approach.
Does not allow room for frustration, perfection, or guilt to take over because the process focus allows you to respond to the nuances of each day. Instead of facing these, you know, [00:04:00] random circumstances that come up and going freezing and going, I don't know what to do with this. I'm frustrated, I'm overwhelmed.
I'm trying to be perfect in my journey, but I can't because X, y, Z is going on. When you're focused on the. In the day-to-day habits, doing it one at a time, you know that you're showing up as best you can that day versus comparing how you're showing up on a really hard day, a few months down the road. To your motivation fueled and excited day one back in January, like those are two totally separate days.
They're two totally separate feelings. They're two totally separate sets of circumstances. And when you're only focused on the outcome, you're gonna end up comparing those days. You're gonna get frustrated with yourself and it's not worth it. It is not worth going through your journey in that way. So if you're tired of feeling frustration on those days that you don't show up to the level that you.
in your journey back in January, or if you're sick of relying on motivation to try to [00:05:00] show up and it just isn't showing up for you because you, I don't feel motivated many days either. And if you're ready to switch your focus from the scale and from being perfect in your journey to a sustainable lifelong process that feels doable and not overwhelming, even on the days when Mo Motherhood's just taken over and it's difficult, then you need to learn.
To successfully implement and master your starting point, and then each stepping stone that comes after that, you'll have me and the accountability of other clients if you decide to start. Starting point school on December 29th when the doors open if you decide to join us. So if you want more information on that, get yourself on the wait list@startingpointschool.co.
Because in that we'll be taking this approach, the step-by-step one habit at a time, actually sustainable frustration free process. Doors will open Thursday. And they will close on January 7th. So get on the wait list. Make sure that you get all the information you need, and let's get [00:06:00] going. I will see you in there before you go.
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I'm so grateful to be on this journey with you, sister. Until next time, get after it.
