Are These Sabotaging Your Mind AND Your Weight Loss Journey? Find Out.
Unpopular opinion:
The mom struggle memes and reels are relatable, but they are ruining you.
Figured I'd rip the bandaid off before we even start. Though they're relatable and honestly hilarious, if that's all you fill your mind with... there's gonna be issues.
Now, I am the first person to laugh at any post poking fun at the difficulties of parenthood. They're relatable and make light of the sometimes tougher moments.
But they can be destructive. When that stuff becomes MORE of what you consume... or if you just mindlessly scroll and take all that in too often...
It allows room for THAT to become the standard for your mindset — that being "motherhood is hard, everyone is struggling so I should struggle too, I should always be tired, coffee all day then wine every night to decompress" etc.
Everything that goes into our mind is put on our heart. It becomes who we are and how we function. So watch what you consume.
Because although those hilarious memes and reels about motherhood are just that — funny, and also so relatable, making you feel seen — they also make you focus ONLY on the hard and the struggle.
And if you over focus on that, everything else will be hard and a struggle too…
your journey included.
So what I want you to do —
Think of me next time you consume the mom struggle stuff. Not to get down on yourself, but to become CONSCIOUS of what you're consuming because often we just consume consume consume without realizing it. Just raise your self awareness!
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FULL TRANSCRIPT
[00:00:00] Unpopular opinion. Ooh, the mom struggle, memes and reals are relatable. And they're funny. I laugh at them, but they're ruining. Like I said, unpopular opinion, figured I'd rip the bandaid off before we even start. You're getting a true, tough love tip today because to be honest, just like I said, though, they're relatable and hilarious.
If that's all you fill your mind with, there's going to be issues. So let's dive into it.
Hey, mama. Welcome to the tough love mom podcast. I know you're here because you're ready to get consistent and finally lose that weight. And you're not afraid of a little tough love, you know, what to do to lose weight. But following through on those things feels impossible. You wish you could just feel like you're strong, confident self again, and want to be a good example for your little ones, but you get thrown off by mom guilt and the unpredictability of motherhood.
Frustrating taking on your journey. Postpartum is hard, but it's not impossible. [00:01:00] Hey, I'm Liz and I've been where you are. I gained a lot of weight in my pregnancies, 90 pounds, and then 60 pounds. I needed to lose that weight to take control of my health. And honestly just wanted to feel like myself again with a sustainable approach to weight loss.
Simple consistency in working on my mindset. I lost it all in just over a year, both times. And I'm here to help you do the same. I believe that we have an ingrained ability to figure out what we need to do, make it happen and do it in a way that AWS the world, if you're ready to stop falling off the wagon, create solid routine and healthy habits and finally feel your best inside and out all while enjoying D nuggets on your salad, you are in the right place.
We're about to transform your journey. My. Get pumped up. It is tough. Love time.
Okay. You're still here. That's good. It's really good news. It means you're open-minded and willing to learn and grow. So are those relatable and funny mom struggle, memes [00:02:00] and reals sabotaging your mind and your journey let's find out. So I'm the first person to laugh at any post poking fun at the difficulties of parenthood.
I mean, Casey and I send them back and forth to each other all the time. Because they're funny, like they're relatable, they make you feel seen. Right. And they make light of some of the tougher moments and some are just flat out hilarious, but they can be destructive. And I'm gonna share why in a second here, but I just want you to have your mind open that kind of content on social media, the stuff that's funny, the things that make you laugh that make you feel seen are often what goes viral, right?
Because more, more and more people can relate to it. And. Often social media is a place where we go to escape. Like how often do you just mindlessly open one of your social media apps? Just for 15 seconds later to realize, why do I have this open? I'm just mindlessly scrolling and you close it. Like how many times a day does that happen?
It's because we are going there to escape boredom, to escape, not feeling feelings. We don't wanna feel we're going there to escape the difficult. [00:03:00] So. When you open that up and that funny and somewhat relatable stuff comes up constantly time after time after time, because that's what goes more viral on the platform, which is fine.
That's just how it works. Cuz it keeps you on there. It keeps you opening up the app. But when that becomes more of what you consume or if you're just mindlessly scrolling and take all of that in way too often, what it allows room for is for that to become the standard for your mindset, that that standard being motherhood is.
Everyone else is struggling. So I should struggle too. I should always be tired coffee all day, then wine every night to decompress, right? Like that can become an identity. It can become, we can let it become who we are. We can let it become, oh, that's just how I see myself. I'm a mom. So I'm this way because we're constantly consuming that stuff.
Everything that goes into your mind, AKA things you take in with your eyes, things you take in with your ears, it's put on your heart. It becomes who you are. It becomes how you function. So watch what you [00:04:00] consume, watch what you're letting in, because although those hilarious memes and reals about motherhood are just that they're funny.
And they're also so relatable, they make you feel seen. They're also making you focus only on the hard in the struggle. And if you over focus on those things, if you're over focusing hyper focus on the struggle and the difficulties of parenthood. Everything and I mean, everything else will be hard and a struggle too.
Your journey included your journey is not exempt from this because once one thing is let in and it becomes an identity, it becomes part of how you feel and think and react to the world. That's how you're gonna feel and think and react. When you're in the context of your weight, loss journey. So it's affecting that and it's making it, this is hard.
My kids are making it difficult. I just can't change these things cause I have too much going on. I'm too tired. I'm too. This I'm too that, so stop. I want you to do two things because we can't honestly, it's gotten too far in my opinion. [00:05:00] I think they're hilarious, but I, and I've shared this before. I'm very hesitant on what I share in my stories on what I'll post on my feed on what I'll send to my friends, because honestly, yeah, they're funny and they're relatable and I gut laugh at some of this stuff, but if I'm.
Taking that. And I, and I have a very strong. Uh, what's the word wall around my mindset. Like I've really worked to build that up, build around that mental toughness and that self-awareness, that comes with Ooh, like, yeah, that's funny, but it's not who I am. That's that comes from straight up. Self-awareness learning, facing my feelings instead of mindlessly scrolling comes from a lot of that, but I'm very cognizant of, do I share this or not?
Do I send that to my friend or not? Do I send that to Casey or not? Like, because if, if we're not taking a second. To think about what we're consuming or what we're sharing. I mean, that's the next level. It's not just affecting us now. It's affecting other people. And I know you're following me. You listen to this podcast cuz you wanna be spurred on.
Well, if I'm sharing something, that's making motherhood look like a [00:06:00] struggle all the time and not giving you a way out or showing you, Hey, it's hard, but I can still overcome. It's hard, but I'm not a victim to it. If I'm not showing you that. If I'm only showing, Hey struggle, struggle, struggle hard, hard, hard.
It's funny. what's that doing for you? What's that doing for the moms around me? Not much. If anything, it's taking away from them, it's hurting them and I'm not one to do that. So I I'm just, I'm not here to say you're bad or anything for sharing. 'em I'm just sharing my heart and what goes through my head when I see that stuff, cuz there are things I'm like, oh man, that's so funny.
I just wanna share it with my friends. I just wanna share it with my girlfriends. Like all my other mom, friends. I wanna share it to my stories cause I know it'll make you laugh. And sometimes I do. Because I'm not, you know, I'm human. I am not perfect, but I think it's good to be more aware of how is this affecting me?
And if I go share it out to the world, how is it affecting them? So two things, I want you to do two simple things. Cause I want you to leave here empowered and encouraged, not feeling bad about all the funny things that you laugh at. Cuz I still laugh at them. Like I still let them in. [00:07:00] All I want you to do is two things.
One, think of me next time you consume the mom struggle. again, not to get down on yourself, but to become conscious of what you're consuming, because we often just consume, consume, consume without realizing it. Just raise yourself awareness. Like literally next time, just go. Oh, I remember that episode. That tough love tip Liz did about being more self aware of how this is affecting me.
How is this affecting me? Okay. I feel seen it's funny. Yeah, I experienced that, but it's not my, my 24 7 every minute of the day life. So I'm. I'm a strong woman. I got this, right? Like just raise yourself awareness, give yourself a second to think about what you're consuming and how it's affecting you and let it not become part of your identity.
And the second thing I want you to. I want your honest opinion on this episode, cuz it, I mean, like I started off unpopular opinion. Yeah, it really is. Because again, that is, this is the stuff that goes viral, that everyone loves that everyone shares that everyone thinks is funny, me included, but how is [00:08:00] it affecting us?
So tell me, what are your thoughts? Are you like totally mind blown? You've never realized this before. You've never made that connection between how you feel as a mom, why it feels so hard and what you're consuming or are you on the same page as. You've just been waiting for someone to say it, or you just haven't put the words to it.
And you're like, that's it. That's what I've been thinking. That's what I've been feeling. If whatever it is, if you're mind blown or if you're like, yes, that's what I've been trying to say. I just couldn't put it to words. I'm glad Liz did. What I want you to do is head over the tough love mom squad on Facebook.
You can just head onto Facebook and search for it, or I linked it below for you too, but search for thet of mom squad. I've got a post up in there today, all about this. And I wanna hear what you think like. Share with me. What you think are you on the same page? Do you totally disagree with me? I mean, I'm open to conversation, but I wanna know what you think.
And I will see you over there if this hit home. And I think this is important because there is the shift happening in culture and mom culture. That's becoming a victim mindset [00:09:00] and. Man. If we are constantly living day to day in that this is hard, I'm a hot mess. This is a struggle. If we're constantly living in that, what's it doing for our kids?
What's it setting them up for, as they become parents down the road? Like, what is that doing for them? What is it doing for us? Yeah. And if you think about it, if it's affecting you, just as you show up as a mom, how is it affecting your health, your sleep. the way you approach food. I mean, probably stress eating a lot more stress drinking, right.
To decompress. I don't know how that's decompressing, but you get, you get what I'm saying. So I'm just challenging. You. To be better for you and for your kids and not to feel bad, not to get down on yourself, but to just level up like raise we're raising up a next generation and ourselves at the same time.
So let's, let's be better, not just for ourselves, but for our kids and for their kids and for the kids after that, because I don't want, I mean, I have two boys, but I don't want their wives one day to be living under this. Umbrella of motherhood's hard. [00:10:00] Like my mom's generation, my mother-in-law's generation, they had just had a struggle.
It was a hot mess express with motherhood. And I, I don't want them living that way. I want them loving motherhood and yeah, experiencing the hard it's hard, but not letting it become who they are. It doesn't need to be our identity. So how's it affecting you? Just start being more self-aware of it. Okay.
I'll see you over in the tough love mom squads. We can talk about this some more over there and in the meantime, go get after it before you go. Thank you for spending this time with me on the tough love mom podcast. If this episode encouraged you in any way, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a review, letting me know how the show has impacted you.
Then. Send this episode to another mom friend, or take a screenshot, post it on social media and tag me so I can personally thank you for helping me on this journey to impact thousands of moms. I'm so grateful to be on this journey with your sister until next time. Get after it.[00:11:00]
