The Surprising Connection Between Inconveniences and Weight Loss
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It's time to shift your perspective on inconvenient circumstances that come up as a mom. YES, they're not fun, but they CAN have a purpose if you choose to see them differently.
So WHY should you change your perspective on inconveniences? And HOW does it help you get more disciplined and consistent in your journey? We're answering those questions today... let's GO.
I was listening to an interview the creator of 75 Hard (Andy Frisella) recently did and he was talking about the reasoning behind why 75 Hard was created the way it was created.
He talked about how he understands what it's like to say “oh I'll start or recommit to eating healthier Monday or after this event” and ultimately what that did to him.
With that backslide continually happening, he needed to do something hard and came to realize that the purpose of the 75 Hard/Live Hard program is to get people to put themselves through something that is the equivalent of a mental boot camp.
We have to change ourselves mentally before we can change ourselves, physically.
So why are inconveniences part of weight loss and how can they help you get more disciplined and consistent?
You have to change mentally before you change physically
You have to development mindset to win battles before you can actually win them
You can't let yourself off the hook like we tend to do when things get hard
It builds resilience, grit, and fortitude
You can't justify or enable yourself aka take the easier path in the moment just because it's easier
It allows a higher level of awareness so you don't talk yourself into a decision that won't serve you best long term
We face inconveniences DAILY in our regular lives!
Ordering a salad when everyone else orders pizza
Getting up when you're tired
Going for a run when it's raining
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FULL TRANSCRIPT
[00:00:00] I recently finished the 75 hard live hard program. And when you look at the daily. Task list. It can seem like a lot. It can seem like a lot of todos and there's a point to that. There's a point to doing anything hard and it's incon conveniencing yourself. It sounds kind of weird. Right? So why and how does it help you get more disciplined and more consistent in your journey?
I'm answering those questions today. Let's get into that.
Hey, mama. Welcome to the tough love mom podcast. I know you're here because you're ready to get consistent and finally lose that weight. And you're not afraid of a little tough love, you know, what to do to lose weight. But following through on those things feels impossible. You wish you could just feel like you're strong, confident self again, and want to be a good example for your little ones, but you get thrown off by mom guilt and the unpredictability of motherhood.
It's frustrat. Taking on your journey. Postpartum is hard, but it's not impossible. Hey, I'm [00:01:00] Liz and I've been where you are. I gained a lot of weight in my pregnancies, 90 pounds, and then 60 pounds. I needed to lose that weight to take control of my health. And honestly just wanted to feel like myself again with a sustainable approach to weight loss.
Simple consistency in working on my mindset. I lost it all in just over a year, both times. And I'm here to help you do the same. I believe that we have an ingrained ability to figure out what we need to do, make it happen and do it in a way that AWS the world, if you're ready to stop falling off the wagon, create solid routine and healthy habits and finally feel your best inside and out all while enjoying D nuggets on your salad, you are in the right place.
We're about to transform your journey. My. Get pumped up. It is tough love time.
So just a couple weeks ago, I was listening to an interview that the creator of 75 hard Andy frac did with Megan Kelly. And he was talking about the reasoning behind why 75 hard was [00:02:00] created and the way it was created. I'm gonna read a, a little transcription of what he said in that podcast, cuz it hits home and he worded it perfectly.
So he talked. Initially how he understands what it's like to say, oh, I'll start and recommit to eating healthier on Monday or after the holidays or after this vacation, because I just wanna enjoy it right now. Like he understands what it feels like to put things off. And I think we all do. We've all been there.
So he started off with that, how he, he understands and can empathize with that delay with that delayed start because you you're justifying the right now. He says, I used to look at people who had this ability to follow through on things or that were mentally tough or that did amazing things as they were magical.
So I became a student of mental toughness because I didn't have it, but I wanted it so bad. I wanted to be one of those people so bad that I would study literally anybody who had done anything hard and try to figure out what it was that they had, that I didn't. And literally decade after [00:03:00] literally decades of studying, I couldn't figure it out.
And then one day I met this guy, James Lawrence, who, by the way, side note, this is Liz now speaking. Um, we had sunny Lawrence, James James's wife. He's the man who did. 50 Ironmans in 50 days in 50 states. And then did a few years later, a hundred consecutive Ironmans in a hundred days. And an Ironman is 140 mile triathlon.
And I interviewed his wife on the podcast early on in the podcast. I'll, I'll link it below, um, and not too long after the a hundred was completed. So Andy met this guy, James Lawrence reading, going back into reading who some people know as the iron cowboy. at that time, he had done 50 full length Ironman races in 50 days in 50 states consecutively.
And that was amazing to me. So I had him on my podcast and he said something to the effect of putting yourself intentionally in uncomfortable situations. And it automatically clicked for me that this is what, not something that was gifted to you as a trait, [00:04:00] you come out of the womb as a blank. And you are the result of stimuli that is put onto you over time.
And so I think the first thing that everybody has to realize is that if you lack mental toughness, if you lack the ability to stick to things, if you lack perseverance, if you lack fortitude, if you lack grit, if you lack what other people call heart or confidence, the reason that you lack that is because you likely believe that these are traits that you cannot change about.
And that is the furthest thing from the truth. So the first thing we have to understand is that these things that we wish that we had, that we admire in other people that we don't have are actually things that we do have. We just have to invest in those parts of ourselves to make them strong. Just like you would make your muscles strong, your mental capacity and your mental toughness is no different than training your muscle.
And once you can understand that now you're in a place to really develop those skill sets. And that's the purpose of 75 hard live hard program is to get people to [00:05:00] put themselves through something that is the equivalent of a mental bootcamp. We have to change our ourselves mentally before we can change ourselves physically.
So. that was the summary of what he said, the little transcript of part of that interview, because I was like, oh, he hit it home. We all have this inside of us. We all have the capability and the capacity to have perseverance and resilience and mental toughness and to be disciplined and to be consistent, you just have to build up that muscle because maybe, you know, when you came, when you came out of the womb, when you were born, you were born into an environment that didn't have any of.
so you might be starting from a place further back than someone who did have that growing up around them, but you can develop it either. Maybe that person who was born into it, never developed it. So they just stayed in the same spot, their whole life complacency. Right. We just talked about that, but you're the kind of person who, if you weren't born into that environment, you still have the ability and the capacity to build that skillset.
It's like building muscle. There are people who have been obese, [00:06:00] extremely overweight who have lost weight and have built muscle. It is possible to do as well with your mindset. So. Why are inconveniences part of weight loss and how can they help you get more disciplined and more consistent? Because that was the whole premise of him creating 75 hard was putting other people, putting yourself, creating a program that puts you in uncomfortable situations.
If you go back and listen to my 75 hard podcast, the recap episode, I'll link that too for. . I had so many moments where I was like, this is not ideal. This is not gonna work out very well today. I'm gonna have to figure it out. I got a stomach bug, like halfway through the first 75 days, we traveled a ton. I started when we were out of town and I also finished the live hard.
The, you live hard year when we were out of town. I mean, I had a lot and those were just a couple obstacles. I can't even remember 'em all, but there were plenty of times I was. Well, this is not convenient, but I'm gonna have to figure it out. And that's when you build that discipline, that consistency, that resilience, the perseverance, all those things, the grit that he [00:07:00] talked about.
So you have to change mentally before you change physically. So much of our journey is in our mindset. I'd say I'd argue 80 to 90% of our journey of your ability to lose weight of your ability to be consistent is in your head. It really is. Yes, your habits and your actions and what you're putting in your body and how you're moving.
It absolutely play a. But the catalyst to all of those things is how you think about yourself, how you think about your life, how you make decisions. And so yes, you have to start changing your mind before you can change physically. You also can't let yourself off the hook. So like doing 75 hard, I'm going, I'm finishing this, I'm doing it.
I'm committed. You can't let yourself off the hook in that situation. When you have that passion, that conviction to finish, right? You cannot let yourself off the hook. Like we tend to do when things get. This is what builds resilience, grit, fortitude, you can't justify or enable yourself AKA take the easier path in the moment, just because it's easier because you've [00:08:00] committed to something that you're saying I'm gonna follow through on this.
And this isn't like a pitch for you to do 75 hard. I mean, it's a free program, so you can do whatever you want, but. I'm just saying, when you put yourself in uncomfortable situations, when you commit to something, whether it's the starting point that we picked on your starting point session, or whether it's something like 75 hard or a workout program, or some sort of challenge with your friends, I don't know.
When you commit to something, you can't let yourself off the hook and you have to figure it out in those moments when things get hard in those moments, when circumstances aren't ideal, when your schedule gets thrown off, when kids get sick, when you get. you have to figure it out in the moment and just follow through.
And it also helps doing this, doing all of that helps build this higher level of awareness. So you don't talk yourself into a decision that you won't serve you best long term. You're able to take a step back and say, okay, I've got all of this going on in my life. Right. In the moment, it feels like I'm not gonna get this workout done.
It feels like dinner's not gonna get on the table tonight. And I'm just gonna make [00:09:00] bowls of cereal. It feels like this in the moment, because life is hard right now and that's fine. That's real life. That is your reality. Yes, it's hard. But when you can, it, when you're committed to following through on something that you said you were going to do or something that you wanna be consistent with, Right.
That's where that decision comes in. You're able to bring this higher level of awareness in where you can take a step back and say, okay, I know this is my reality right now, but tonight when I go to bed tomorrow weeks from now, months from now years from now, how is this gonna affect me? If I choose to not follow through, if I choose to not be committed, if I choose to not be disciplined in this decision and you can make a decision much.
because even though you're in the midst of an inconvenience, you're able to make a logical decision instead of an emotional one. Okay. And it's in our regular day to day lives that we face inconveniences. I just told you about what I faced in 75, hard, just a few things, plenty of stuff will [00:10:00] come up in your life where you have to decide one way or the.
are you gonna be disciplined or are you not? And I'm not saying you gotta be disciplined 100% of the time. No, I live my life too. I had a chocolate chip cookie yesterday. It's all good. I made that decision. very logically, but it's things like, okay, you're out at a restaurant and they've got this wide, like, so let's sink cheesecake factory where they've got and bajillion things on the menu and you can choose whatever you want.
Are you gonna choose. You know, the personal pizza, that's actually like a huge pizza that is for you. Are you gonna choose the fried food or are you gonna order a salad or some like meat with vegetables on the side, we're gonna get the French fries or the vegetables on the side. These are all, when everyone else is ordering the French fries, like that's up to you.
That's a choice. That's an inconvenience in a sense because everyone else is having something else and you're picking vegetables. Okay. So who cares, who cares do it? Do what's best for you? Make that decision? Another example of an inconvenience that I just experienced today, as I'm recording, uh, getting up when you're [00:11:00] tired, your alarm goes off, you really don't wanna get out of bed, but you have to make the decision in the moment.
This is inconvenient, cause I would love to keep sleeping, but what's best for me today. What's best for me this afternoon. What's best for me. Five days from now. Decide. You know, going for a run when it's raining, going for a walk, whenever we do the consistency challenge, that's like going for a walk, people will be like, oh, it's raining, but I wet anyways, you are taking on those inconveniences and you're getting more consistent.
But if you let the rain, the circumstance that you can't control, it control you. It's gonna be harder to be disciplined later on down the road. It really is. So I know that was a lot. , but I want you to just shift your perspective on what an inconvenience is to you. Yeah, they're hard. Yeah. They're not fun.
I don't wanna deal with them. But they're a great opportunity for you to grow for you to get more disciplined for you to get more consistent. And I don't know if said those words so many times, but those are the foundations of building a life, a [00:12:00] healthy life that you wanna live, that you picture for yourself, that you see other people living.
And you're like, I just wanna live like that. I want these decisions to be easier. I want this consistency to be easier. Well, it's built in facing inconveniences, head on and making the hard decision. so see them as an opportunity, be grateful for those inconveniences, even though they don't feel good in the moment, we can be grateful for things in the moment, even when they don't feel.
Yeah, kinda like birth. We're like super grateful. We just have a baby in our arms now, but it didn't feel very good. right. That's like the perfect example that we can all relate to in the weeks after probably didn't feel great all the time either. So, you know, they can both exist in the same world, not feeling great and being grateful for an inconvenience is a beautiful.
Okay. So let's start seeing let's shift our perspective and start seeing them that way. Do that with me, do that with me, cuz I have plenty of moments too, where I'm like, oh, this is not fun, but man, if we could start changing our mindset, everything else would start [00:13:00] to change too. Yeah. Oh so cool. If you want some encouragement like this on the weekly, make sure that you sign up for the text list because I send out not this long, but I send out little blurbs.
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