There is NO Place for Apathy in Your Journey [TOUGH LOVE TIP]
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The definition of apathy is a lack of interest, enthusiasm, motivation, or concern aka INDIFFERENCE. So HOW can you tell the difference between it being a simple result of a lack of discipline in little moments over time or it being a symptom of something more serious?
We're talking about that and how INDIVIDUAL all of this is in today's episode. Buckle up for some self-awareness and much needed encouragement.
xo, Liz
The definition of apathy is a lack of interest, enthusiasm, motivation, or concern. Basically INDIFFERENCE.
Now, there are serious issues like clinical depression or anxiety that can cause apathy to show up. So if you're truly struggling with your mental health right now, this is not meant to throw shade or to judge you AT ALL. If there are any signs of strong apathy showing up in your life, go seek out help!
This is meant for the mama who is starting to notice herself not being as enthusiastic about the changes she was trying to make mainly because of "life happening."
Because guess what? Life happens to all of us.
Often THE FIRST priority to go when life gets busy or hard or overwhelming isn't our kids, or the grocery shopping, or probably even your current fave show in Netflix!
It's often YOURSELF.
Not that we should always be self-focused, but our physical and mental health IS REALLY IMPORTANT.
Without it, all OF the other priorities in our lives WILL suffer… guaranteed.
So I want to remind you today — if circumstances got a little crazy recently or life got busier and the time you used to set aside or WANT to (and haven't yet) set aside to workout or eat healthier or do the things you want to be doing for your health just ISN'T THERE...
God made you stronger, more capable than your circumstances.
Yes, it's NORMAL and honestly common to lose motivation or excitement in harder seasons, but that doesn't mean you can’t choose to build resilience in the midst of it.
All resilience is is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties.
SO... life gets busy, you lose motivation to show up the way you wanted to, you get a little apathetic... OKAY. That's fine.
Once you recognize that's going on though, you have a choice: to either find a way or give in to that indifference.
Again, if apathy is stemming from a MORE serious issue — seek help. That's serious and can be a sign of depression. So if that's you, this is your encouragement that you are strong enough to seek out help.
But if it's showing up in little ways that you know are not YOU operating at your best, that indifference is only going to lead you back to where you started. Don't let yourself backslide that far.
Again — you're strong and more capable than you realize.
Apathy has no place or right to live IN you. You're bigger than it. stronger than it. More capable.
Choose to follow through even when you don't feel like it. That's how you fight that battle. That's how you prove to yourself what you've been designed to handle. That's when you prove what you're capable of.
And it's a lot. I promise.
Are you ready to go from overwhelmed and stuck to disciplined and consistent in your journey?
Book your Starting Point Session and let's get you on track to your healthiest life!
FULL TRANSCRIPT
[00:00:00] All right. Sweet friend. I hope you're buckled up for today's tough love tip. I have completely scraped any notes that I have for this episode, because I wanna speak from the heart and I want you to get this message raw from me. This message, uh, coming from a place that is not coming from notes. It is just simply from my heart, because I think there's a very fine line in motherhood.
That we just need to be careful when we're walking for various reasons and it has to deal with apathy. So I'm gonna go in and define that in this episode. So you can better understand what that term is, what it means and help you just spur you on to help identify. If it's affecting you in your journey, if it's affecting you in your day to day life, and it's, if it's affecting you in a way that you might need to see out help for, but I really wanna help you today.
Just empower you, spur you on. Maybe give you a loving kick in the butt to look into this area of your life. Look into this mindset [00:01:00] and see if it's affecting your journey. So let's talk about apathy. Hey, mama. Welcome to the tough love mom podcast. I know you're here because you're ready to get consistent and finally lose that weight.
And you're not afraid of a little tough love, you know, what to do to lose weight. But following through on those things feels impossible. You wish you could just feel like you're strong, confident self again. And want to be a good example for your little ones, but you get thrown off by mom guilt and the unpredictability of motherhood.
It's frustrating taking on your journey. Postpartum is hard, but it's not impossible. Hey, I'm Liz and I've been where you are. I gained a lot of weight in my pregnancies, 90 pounds, and then 60 pounds. I needed to lose that weight to take control of my health. And honestly just wanted to feel like myself again.
Sustainable approach to weight loss, simple consistency in working on my mindset. I lost it all in just over a year, both times. And [00:02:00] I'm here to help you do the same. I believe that we have an ingrained ability to figure out what we need to do, make it happen and do it in a way that AWS the world, if you're ready to.
Stop falling off the wagon, create solid routine and healthy habits, and finally feel your best inside and out all while enjoying D nuggets on your salad, you are in the right place. We're about to transform your journey. My friend get pumped up. It is tough love time. So usually I get ideas for episodes from you guys, from the listeners, from topics I've taught on before that have just been really instrumental or from how I coach people.
Starting point sessions. That's where I get a lot of my topics from, but the idea for this episode actually came when I was listening to worship music in the car the other day. And that's what gave me the idea for this episode. So the basic definition of apathy is a lack of interest, enthusiasm, motivation, or concern.
So basically if we were to sum it up in one. [00:03:00] Indifference would be a good way to define apathy a good synonym. Now there are serious issues like clinical depression or anxiety, and apathy can be a symptom of those. So again, I'm coming into this episode into this conversation, very aware number one of what.
Apathy can be an indicator of, and the seriousness seriousness of that, especially after like looking back on my first pregnancy and postpartum after Cal, after my second, when I look back, I go, man, I kind of had some of these signs. I definitely didn't know in the moment, but like had I had that awareness, I probably would've sought out some help just to cope with the things that I was trying to navigate.
again, if any of like the signs, any of the things I'm talking about today, you're like, man, I feel like that's going on in my life, but it might be because there's more going on, seek help. That is what strong people do is they ask for help. And like every single [00:04:00] mom listen that listens to this episode will only be cheering you on and doing that.
But I think it's a very fine line and there is this fine line between apathy as a very serious symptom of very. Issue. And this concept, this experience of life is getting a little bit difficult. And so the first thing to go is me. Being disciplined for myself. If that kinda makes sense, I think there's a fine line.
And again, apathy can show up in many different areas of life. We talk here specifically about your health, about showing up for yourself, physically in the kitchen, you know, around your routine, around just things that make you live a healthier life, sleep mindset, food, moving your body. These are things that are vital to our.
Long term. That's why I want you consistent in them. And that consistency is built out of discipline. And yes, we have seasons where that like motivation that enthusiasm [00:05:00] for these things will wane and ebb and flow and all those words. all of those words that I don't fully know which ones are rich, but you know, it'll come and go.
and that's so normal. I wanna tell you, like I'm in a season right now where I'm not super motivated to eat super healthy and to work out consistently, but we just came off of a summer of vacations and we're going into a move in. Life's a little cry, cry, so it's pretty normal. And I'm aware of that. And I go, okay.
I might have a little more stronger feelings of apathy or stronger feelings of indifference about these things, but I'm gonna choose to be consistent. Cause I know overall. Long term in the grand scheme of things, it's best for me to still follow through. So I guess I'm here to say that the only person who can define this for yourself, what this fine line is fine line might not even be the word it's kind of a blurry line between apathy being this very serious indicator that there's something else going on that you might need to seek help [00:06:00] for and apathy.
Life got a little difficult. So I'm putting myself on the back burner because I'm just not being disciplined. There's a difference between the two and again, the line's blurry. And I think for each individual, the line is also kind of constantly moving. Like I just said, you know, as seasons change or circumstances that enthusiasm, that motivation or your concern for showing up in a certain way, in certain areas of.
Will shift and change. That's like normal, that's called living life. It is so, so super normal, but I think it's good to be aware of that constantly because that line is blurry and it's constantly moving. So we have to be aware day in and day out. Okay. Is this feeling of, I don't feel motivated today. I'm really not feeling like.
Has this been like a consistent theme of your life? It's starting to affect your relationships and your mindset overall, and maybe it's something you should look into a little deeper, maybe seek out some help for, or is it because, you know, you've got a lot [00:07:00] going on and maybe you haven't followed through a few more times than you would've liked.
And so you're kind of losing that consistency. You're losing that motivation and it's simply because of a lack. Making the decision to follow through again, I can't iterate this, reiterate this enough, that it is a super fine line blurry moving target. And it's so unique person to person. So I can't tell you if this lack of enthusiasm or if this lack of motivation is there because it's just that season and it's normal and your.
Choices, whether they're consistent or not are being dictated just by your circumstances and that it's normal, or are you being more apathetic because you're just not being as, as tough minded as you are capable of. And I think this is why this episode came to mind because there's a lot more ability in us than we give ourselves credit for it than we believe about ourselves.
We have a lot more strength. And there will be [00:08:00] days. You have to tap into that when you don't really know if it's there, you don't know if those reserves of strength and resilience are there, but I'm here to tell you that they are. And it truly is in those little tiny, tiny moments where you're making split second decisions, whether it's.
One extra handful of goldfish or, you know, I'm gonna cut this work out short and just not finish it later today. Cause I don't feel like it because my kids are being super crazy and I don't think I'm capable of, you know, if it's just, if you're letting your thoughts, get the best of you all the time and not challenging yourself a little bit.
Remember when we're trying to do things that are difficult to push our boundaries, to push what we're capable of. You don't do it in these huge, massive spurts. It's not like, okay, I'm gonna see if this apathy is taking way too strong of a root in my mindset. And so I'm gonna go out and try to run five miles when you haven't ran for five months, that's not the way to do it.
The way to do it is I'm gonna walk or I'm gonna run for 10 extra minutes today, or for five extra minutes. And see if I'm capable of that. It's by giving yourself small, [00:09:00] incremental challenges that are really going to push you. Those are how you grow. And if you're not tapping into those moments where you need to get a little bit of more strength outta yourself than you think is there.
Yeah. It might be a moment of. Apathy. It might be that moment of, you know, lack of enthusiasm. And again, I can't reiterate this enough. It's normal to have seasons where that excitement for these parts of your journey is low. And I think that's when a lot of people tend to fall off because it's like, oh, I just really don't feel that excited or that motivated anymore.
And so in your mind, you can easily justify not following through not being as disciplined when. Choosing to follow through, even when you don't feel like it is how you keep from apathy, from a lack of motivation, from whatever you wanna call it, indifference from ruling your journey from keeping you off track.
It's a fine line it's blurry, and you do have to define it for yourself. [00:10:00] I can't do that for you. This is something where you have to reflect on your own journey. Be really honest with yourself, and it's hard to do that, but it's the only way to do. be honest with yourself. Where are you at? How is your mindset, your circumstances influencing your journey right now, influencing your follow through muscle.
And if it's not where you want it to be, do some things to change that, be intentional about the choices you're making. But again, if you need to fight this battle, if you need to fight this apathy, if it's taking root in a way that you don't want it. but you feel like you can control, choose to follow through when you don't feel like it.
That is how you fight this battle. That's how you prove to yourself what you've been designed to handle what you are capable of. That's when you prove that. And you're capable of a lot more than you think you are. I promise. And mama, if you're listening to this going, I've tried those things. I really just feel this kind of DRES over my life.
This lack of motivation, this, like, I'm just kind of going through the motions, [00:11:00] seek out help, because that might be that like feeling of apathy. I'm not speaking from a place. Being an expert at this being someone who can tell you this is for sure a symptom, but having walked seasons, where, when I look back, I go, man, I was definitely displaying some of that.
And had I gotten help, I might have dealt with things a little bit better. Um, having walked that, I just wanna encourage you that if you're really feeling that and you feel like it's got this grip that you cannot get over, go seek out, help, go talk to someone. You know, there's so many resources out there for you.
And I just want. To encourage you in that you're not alone. So I hope you heard my heart today. I hope this spurred you on to just be a little more honest with yourself, a little more insightful as to and aware. I think awareness is huge in our journeys and mindset really is the biggest piece of being consistent, being disciplined or not.
So go out there, grow that. Self-awareness. So you can grow your follow through muscle, get that stronger, get that more [00:12:00] consistent because at the end of the day, you wanna lose weight. You want to get stronger, you wanna be able to run further, whatever it is you're trying to accomplish. It is done in the seemingly small moments in those choice by choice moments.
And the more that apathy has that strong root in your journey, the harder that's gonna be, if not the more impossible that will. So deal with any feelings of apathy that are, that have a hold on you right now. I think this is a time of year where that can be strong. So be aware, is it a piece of your journey right now, and then use those tiny, tiny moments where you're making split second decisions to just reflect for a quick second.
Am I making this decision out of indifference because I'm not feeling motivated and I just don't feel like following through, or am I making a decision that is going to give me a little bit more ground, a little bit more progress in my journey. So that quick, simple decision, and if it is coming from a place of lack of motivation, You know, lack of enthusiasm and you're just not feeling like it, [00:13:00] but you really feel like you cannot shake that feeling and it's affecting other areas of your life as well.
Go seek help. But if you are in a place where you know, that lack of motivation is just cuz you haven't been following through that feeling of apathy is because you haven't been consistent. Like you wanted to be, or as you have been in the past, don't rely on that. Feeling your feelings are not factual.
They're not things that need to run your life. Your choices. Your mindset, you get to be in charge and you are more capable than you think you are. So tap into that. Okay. If you want encouragement like this weekly, every single week, make sure that you text tough love. Two words, tough love to 2 0 5 8 0 9 7 3 0 0.
So you can get a little bit of motivation and encouragement from me every single week. So again, just one more layer of protection against that feeling of apathy. In the meantime, mama, I love. My hope is that you could really hear my heart behind this. [00:14:00] And as always, I hope you go get after it until next time before you go.
Thank you for spending this time with me on the tough love mom podcast. If this episode encouraged you in any way, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a review, letting me know how the show has impacted you. Then send this episode to another mom friend or. Take a screenshot, post it on social media and tag me so I can personally thank you for helping me on this journey to impact thousands of moms.
I'm so grateful to be on this journey with the sister until next time. Get after it.
