3 Changes You Can Make if Your Pre-Pregnancy Clothes Are Still Uncomfortable and You Still Aren’t Feeling Confident in Your Body 9 Months Postpartum
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Want to feel more comfortable in your body, but just not at that point yet? Whether it's PHYSICALLY comfortable in how you feel or that mental side of it, you are not alone and you definitely should NOT give up hope!
Get ready for 3 simple things you can do or change if you're still uncomfortable or not confident in your body postpartum — 2 practical, quick changes, and 1 shift that will encourage your heart and mind. Remember mama, you are capable.
My body felt so different for a good 9 months postpartum and it was a hard adjustment. All I wanted was to feel more comfortable and confident in jeans and t shirts and other clothes I used to wear. With time and a few changes and shifts in what I did, that finally came to be. Let’s dive into those —
Figure out what clothes are comfortable right now
You cannot change your body overnight, but you can change what you're wearing
Get new sizes!
You may just need to embrace a new clothing size either for this season or for good
Start looking at yourself in the mirror now
Do you avoid what you see? Do you pick yourself apart when you do see yourself in the mirror? Do you divert your gaze when you get out of the shower because you don't like what you still see?
I know we're reminded of that cliche statement all the time of look at what your body's done, but truly look at you. Your body. Look at how strong it is. What has that overcome? What did your body fight through? What did your body heal from?
We forget sometimes how capable our bodies are. So take a second and think about what your body has done, what it's overcome and healed from, what it's carried and had to let go of, and give yourself true grace for how it looks right now.
It's your body and you're in it, but because of what it's done, it makes you strong. It makes you capable. It makes you worthy of grace. Take that in.
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FULL TRANSCRIPT
[00:00:00] I want to feel comfortable in your body, but you're just not at that point yet. You're months and months postpartum, maybe. And that's okay, but you're just still not there. Well, mama, you're not alone and you definitely do not need to give up hope. In this episode, I'm going to give you three simple things that you can do or change if you're still feeling a little uncomfortable just in where you're at and how you feel, or if you're not competent yet in body post partum.
So let's get into that.
Pay mama. Welcome to the tough love mom podcast. I know you're here because you're ready to get consistent and finally lose that weight. And you're not afraid of a little tough love, you know, what to do to lose. But following through on those things feels impossible. You wish you could just feel like your strong, confident self again, and want to be a good example for your little ones, but you get thrown off by mom guilt and the unpredictability of motherhood.
It's frustrating taking on [00:01:00] your journey. Postpartum is hard, but it's not impossible. Hey, I'm Liz and I've been where you are. I gained a lot of weight in my pregnancies, 90 pounds, and then 60 pounds. I needed to lose that weight, to take control of my health. And honestly just wanted to feel like myself again, with the sustainable approach to weight loss, symbol, consistency, and working on my mindset.
I lost it all in just over a year, both times. And I'm here to help you do the same. I believe that we have an ingrained ability to figure out what we need to do, make it happen and do it in a way that AHS the world. If you're ready to stop falling off the wagon, create solid routine and healthy habits and finally feel your best inside and out all enjoying dyno nuggets on your salad.
You are in the right place. We're about to transform your journey. My friend get pumped up. It's tough luck.
I want to read this week for you of the week. It comes from gangster girl. She says this podcast [00:02:00] is so helpful. The way Liz lives, her life is so inspiring to so many in this podcast is a huge resource to women who are wanting to better their lives by taking back control and being disciplined with their daily.
As a new mom, this podcast has given me so many tools and practical tips to be productive with my time and show up every day as the hardworking and whole hearted mom, I was created to be thank you, Liz, for sharing your experiences with us and showing us what it looks like to own the day. And live fully and freely.
I'm guessing your name's Gabby girl. I've got you. And thank you so much for that review. I love hearing your guys' feedback and what you like hearing on this podcast. And I don't know, unless you tell me like a carried your mind and yeah. DMS on Instagram help, but the best way for me to know. What is helping you most from this podcast is to leave a review and let me know in the written review description, what is helping most and what you like hearing the most, how it's impacting you.
So please go leave a [00:03:00] review if you haven't. So I can continue to make more of that helpful, impactful, again, tactical, practical content that you want. All right, let's talk about our postpartum bodies. My body personally felt so different after both pregnancies for a good nine months. You heard that, right?
And it was a hard adjustment. Both times. All I wanted was to feel more comfortable and more confident in my jeans and in t-shirts that I used to be. Simple outfits that were staples for me, just weren't as comfortable to wear. And I really had to make a lot of shifts in my wardrobe to actually feel comfortable in the clothes I was wearing and not feel not self-conscious, but just physically comfortable.
Like certain things just were not comfortable. The where it wasn't a competence issue. We'll dive into the confidence piece a little bit, but it was a physical comfort thing. Like my belly wasn't comfortable. My legs weren't comfortable, like physically in the clothes, but with time. And a few changes and shifts in what I [00:04:00] did.
I got there. And part of it was the mental confidence piece of being comfortable as well. So we're going to hit on both of those today and I did get there eventually. So let's dive into those things that I did. The first was figuring out what clothes in my closet and my drawers were comfortable. You cannot change your body overnight.
And we embrace that. And as a listener, I know you live that out and I love that you do, because we need more moms like you in this world, leading by example and living that out. But what you can change overnight, whoop is what you're wearing. So if there are certain things in your closet or in your drawers that just aren't comfortable put them to the back for now, like we'll get back there at some point and it's great.
This piece of clothing is a goal for you to be able to wear comfortably eventually, but just let go of it for now. Put it back there. We'll get there eventually. Okay. Some of my favorite clothes and I mean, I said for about a good [00:05:00] nine months, I wasn't super comfortable in the clothes I was wearing and how my body felt for, like I said, a good nine months, but what I was comfortable in.
At first, I'll go through some of those things. But as I got closer to that nine month mark, I did get more comfortable. So it was like a slow progression out of that. My body is so postpartum and so different and holy cow, right, it got out of that slowly. It was a progression, but it wasn't at about that nine month mark, where I was like, I can wear anything in my closet and I feel good in it, uh, nine, 10 months.
So. Again, our body won't change overnight, but what we choose to wear can, so some of my favorites, especially early postpartum, but even those first like 6, 7, 8, 9 months were leggings. Like my favorite go-tos unfortunately we live in, we've lived in the desert after having both kids and it is hot here.
I'm in my second was born in July. So I was in a lot of shorts. But, you know, after once we get through the winter and [00:06:00] into the spring, I love leggings, um, Eliab and Eliab active, which have a discount code for you. So you can shop that link below, um, or just use Liz 15 at checkout, but you get 15% off. I also love Lulu lemon.
Both are very comfortable, alive as much more friendly price, but. Those two are super like my favorite leggings. Cause they don't have to see him. And the seam is just not comfortable on my belly postpartum personally. So I like the seamless leggings and Elia and Lulu lemon both have awesome ones. I also lived in comfortable sports bras.
We'll literally all the time, not the nursing ones. Cause I did not like those in my opinion, the clasps where you have to fold it down and then you can feed your baby through the little hole in the sports bra, not comfortable. What I like to do is just lift my sports bra up and feed my baby that way. So, um, I would wear comfortable sports bras, a lot postpartum.
I still do way easier for breastfeeding. Um, kindred bravely has my favorite ones just for like, day-to-day wear personally. I don't wear [00:07:00] them to work out because, uh, they're not as supportive as I'd like. And I also wear a lot of cute flowy tops, just like really basic one color. No pattern there cotton, um, anywhere from like tank tops to short sleeves, to long sleeves target and old Navy are clutch for those kinds of shirts, but I'm not, I'm not kidding.
You leggings those comfortable sports bras. And then those very basic tops that weren't fitted, they were more floating around the mid section or so. Clutch in those first nine months when I was getting used to my body again. And honestly, I don't think I wore jeans for a few months, postpartum both times.
Like some moms will wear jeans right away. I'm just not comfortable in them. They don't feel good on my waist or my belly or really my legs. And so it was probably three or four months, at least until I wore jeans again, postpartum, because I just didn't want to. Eventually after having my first, I bought new jeans and I never went back.
Not because I didn't lose weight. I did lose all of the [00:08:00] weight. I've gained in both pregnancies. All 150 pounds. I gained between both boys. I lost. But I still never got back to my pre kids, Jean size. And it's because of my pelvis is just wider than it was before. So when I bought those new jeans, it was like a size or two up, I think, from what I wore before kids, I never went back and I love it.
They're so comfortable. And I buy jeans in that side. Well, you know how jeans are like all different sizes based on their brand, but I never went back. I don't really, even, I couldn't even tell you what size I am like by number, because it's so different brand to brand. Right? So like, We cannot change our body overnight, but if you want to get more comfortable just in your body, change up what you wear, because that you can change overnight, you can shift what you wear and yes, maybe there's some things you need to make an investment in for this season.
But some of that stuff I bought for those first few months, those flowy tops, leggings, I still wear them. Um, old Navy also has these really comfortable like waistband linen [00:09:00] shorts. I've lived in those two. Just some, some suggestions there for what worked for me, clothing wise, postpartum to be more comfortable in my body, as I was strengthening it back up and toning it back up, but needed a day to day clothes to wear, just change, make some changes in your closet.
So you're not being stared down by these things that you're still not comfortable in because that's defeating in itself. Even if we can take control of our thoughts, seeing those pieces of clothing that we want to wear, but we know aren't comfortable. It is hard. It just doesn't feel good mentally. So move them to the back of the car.
Make this overnight change was one of the few postpartum, right? Make this overnight change and just change up what you're wearing. The second thing, and I kind of hinted at this that really helps with feeling more confident and more comfortable in my body was again, getting new sizes. Pregnancy changes your body so much.
And if there are still pounds that you want to lose, you may need to just embrace a new clothing size either for the season or [00:10:00] for good. Like I told you, pants, I have gone up, uh, I think a Jean size or two, like I've I need to wear bigger jeans, not insanely big. My, my hips, my bone structure is wider. My pelvis is wider than it was before kids.
Same thing, your rib cage widens during pregnancy and for some moms that doesn't go back in. So that can cause a change in process. It can cause a change in shirt size personally, I consistently before cut kids or medium and sometimes small in shirts. And now after having. I usually wear a medium. Now that I'm at a weight that my body's happy at and I've lost that pregnancy weight.
But, um, even, even sometimes I still will large. I haven't actually sitting here in a large t-shirt right now. It looks a little oversized on me, but nothing crazy. I usually wear mediums and sometimes larges and shirts now, too. And jeans size. Like I said, even at my prepregnancy weight, it's a size larger ish because my pelvis is wider.[00:11:00]
Again, this is a simple. Dare I say quick fix. We don't like that term, but it really is a fast thing that you can do that can help you be more comfortable because you can argue me on this, but I'm a stand my ground. When you are more comfortable in your clothing, you're going to feel more confident. It really, really does go hand in hand.
So now you've covered the tangible, the changes you can make very quick at home within your closet, but I'm going to shift here. From an, from strategy and topics. So come back to me because this one is huge. This change, I want you to make the shift. I want you to make as much more vital and foundational than what's in your closet and what you put on your body to where this is mental.
And we're going to go into this because it's important. And again, like I said, foundational, I want you to start looking at yourself in the mirror more often. Are you like Liz? I do. I brush my teeth every day. I put the [00:12:00] dry shampooing. I got to like cover up the dark circles under my eyes. Okay. But do you actually see yourself?
You don't just look at yourself, but you see yourself or do you avoid what you see? Do you only look at your face when you're brushing your teeth or putting on the under eye concealer? I do the under eye concealer every day still. So that's why I giggled. Do you pick yourself apart when you do see yourself in the mirror, like actually see herself and take a second, or do you divert your gaze when you get out of the shower?
Because you don't like what you still see right now, unless you're driving, you can come back to me only. Excuse you have as if you're driving right now. Will you listen, if you're not driving, go find a mirror right now. I'm not kidding. Pause me. Pause me. If you need to walk into the bathroom, bring your phone with you so I can keep talking.
Uh, go to your room, go to the entryway. If you got that cute circle mirror over your entryway table, I don't have one of those because [00:13:00] I'm not an interior designer. Someone helped me, but, um, go look in a mirror. You only get a pass if you're driving. Okay. You're looking in a mirror. You're there. Okay, cool.
Look yourself up and down. Just take a second. I'm here with you. You're not alone in this. And look at yourself. See yourself. Look at your feet. Look at your shoulders. Look at your torso. Look at your waist. Look at your legs, put your hands on your heart. Put your hands on your arms on your belly. I want you to remember what this body has brought you.
And I know we're reminded of that cliche statement all the time of look at what your body's done, but truly look at you. We'll get your body. We'll get how strong it is. What has that overcome? What did your [00:14:00] body fight through? What did your body heal from? Maybe in pregnancy, maybe from birth, maybe from your past, maybe from some trauma it's experienced.
What has your body overcome? What has your mind helped you heal from. Your arms carry your children, whether they're toddlers or newborn babies, your legs have carried your whole body through pregnancy, through birth, through postpartum, through motherhood. They're strong. They're so strong are the roots.
They bring you to the ground and they keep you grounded your belly. No matter how scarred or changed or wrinkly or flat or round is, has carried life. Maybe once, maybe more than once it is so worthy, your [00:15:00] body has done so much, and it is so worthy of grace. True grace. Your body is strong. It's resilient.
Your body is capable. We forget sometimes how capable our bodies. And what our bodies have actually done. So take a second and think about what your body has done, what it's overcome and healed from what it's carried and had to let go of and give yourself grace true grace for how it looks for how it feels.
It's your body and you're in it, but because of what it's done, it makes you strong. It makes you capable. It makes you worthy of grace. Take that in.[00:16:00]
Good job, mama. I know that might not have been easy. You stood there maybe looking at yourself maybe longer than you ever have before, and I'm so proud of you. Promise me that you will do that more often. Take an extra second to see yourself, not just to look at yourself, but to see yourself and what you are worthy of what you are capable of.
Do what I just did for you. Remind yourself of what your body has done, how worthy it is, how capable you are. You are more than the changes your body has undergone. If you feel that at all right now, snap, a photo of yourself looking in the mirror and all your mom, glory, leggings, dry shampoo hair in a bun spit up on the shirt.
We don't care. We do not care because we are all looking like that. Right now. I've got dry shampoo in my black leggings, so we're good. [00:17:00] And I want you to write whatever it is you needed to hear to. And post it to your stories tag me so I can love on you. You are not alone in how you feel right now. And you also don't have to feel like this, like uncomfortable.
You don't have to feel like that forever. Okay. Okay. I love you, mama. You are capable before you go. Thank you for spending this time with me on the tough love mom podcast. If this episode encouraged you in any way, the number one way you can thank me is to leave her review, letting me know how the show has impacted you.
That. Send this episode to another mom friend, or take a screenshot posted on social media and tag me so I can personally thank you for helping me on this journey to impact thousands of moms. I'm so grateful to be on this journey with you sister until next time. Get after it.
